What Are Some Keys To Liking Social Media Again?

 

Give more than you get,

Find A Niche For yourself, mine is Kindness, Happiness, Generosity, And Love. It has been fun, and very mind opening for over 10 years now.

Police your comments, yet encourage them. Today’s world is a phone world… encourage 1 or 2 word comments.

Stop looking for perfect world, accept the flaws. And Block the bad guys.

Don’t be a grammar Nazi.

Don’t just share…….. learn to create to. Even just better selfies LOL ;)

Expand, the more you learn the better you get, and suddenly 1000’s are following you. Gary Graefen

Axioms Of Truth

 

Axioms Of Truth: Sometime I wonder at some of the responses I get to meme. Typically I try to make them share friendly by not embellishing them to much with to many words. Most of the ones I share I find to be self evident truths. Learned over an almost 7 decade life span, years and years of reading and after raising 18 children over time and operating 5 Business's and working at several others. But my thinking today is not the same as it once was. Experience & Life Long Learning, have tempered some things into a form of benevolent kindness. Sometimes realizations of a more spiritual nature. And then the face it realities we all have of a mortal life and an in your face kinda living. With the possibility of death every single day. As an Elderly white guy alone I get lots of assumptions made about me, my thinking, and where I might be coming from. Or assumptions made about my "Value" because I am not driving a Rolls with a chauffer 🤣 . Though truthfully many people prefer my company. I have had large numbers of followers over many years because I try to do 2 basic things. Entertain & Enlighten. And I do it daily for the most part. It is kinda like my second life occupation. I realize that I am far older than some here. And perhaps you look at things like I might have 30 or 40 years ago. Visions of reality are never written in stone. But they do change over time. This is just the nature of life itself. So when you look at simple meme with simple thoughts connected to them. Try to not to put to much "Heavy Thinking" into them. Most are considered basic axioms of simple truth by the majority of people. And like all life truth, not everything fits into a simple equation. These things are offered as a beginning, never an end. And truthfully I hope one day perhaps you will find what I have. The desire and ability to help millions of others see these things. If only for the sake of trying to help create a better world, and better ways of thinking. ❤ -Gary

The Care Giver Call:

 

You became sick and dying, You asked for help, I chose to answer the call. You needed help with simple things that at one time we all take for granted. Perhaps you could no longer wash a dish, clean your clothes, or make a bed. You would look in the mirror and be saddened by what you saw. The once healthy happy person became a shell of what once was. Nothing you can do will stop this process. It is a function of time, and simple living. For some it is faster than others. A product of life style and choices we make. For some those choices were worse, and so is the result. A Day came when you looked at me with a tear in your eye. You told me I will be dying very soon. I must do this and this and this to stay alive and I can't. It just is not in me any longer, It is time to say goodbye. I honored your choice, realizing that at some point in time. I also would be facing my own mortality and making the same choices. I wept that night at the loss of a friend and comrade. Knowing they would not be the last. The following day you took your last breath. They came to claim your body, I sat outside looking off in the distance. I started to cry uncontrollably. So very sad at the loss of someone who grew to mean so much to me. The following day I packed up your things, Some were thrown away. Some kept as a cherished memory. My good bye became complete, and waited for others to come. As my own mortality starts facing me, I see the choices. I see what I want and do not. Preparations are slow but deliberate. It might be a year, perhaps two or even 5. One never knows for certain. The call comes when the fight becomes futile. My only hope is that when it comes, The one Who will be sadly left to put my existence to rest. Will have the same wonderful memories of me. As I did of those I helped lay to rest. I will always love them. ❤

The Change Is INSIDE YOU, just accept it's release.

 

True ❤ : It has to end, you know the self-hatred, collective shaming, disdain for others, repressed trauma, fake positivity, meaningless materialism, the forgotten hearts. We are all tired of these patterns. We are not built to carry them, never were. They pervert and distort us. These emotions are far too heavy for tender hearts. It has to begin, with self-love, collective healing, love for others, and kindness. An honored story with authentic feeling, meaningful purpose and an open heart. We need to learn to surrender these patterns to a deeper love, of self, of other of earth. It’s why we are here. To rejoice in our time together. It’s time to lay down our weapons and welcome every precious human life into our arms like a new born. Every human cradled in compassion and kindness. Each person honored as a true reflection of the Divine. Every human loved like our life depends on it. Because it does. We are lost without each other. It is time to reclaim humanity. We can live as one group, not many. ❤ -Gary

Face Book MeMe By Gary W Graefen August 2021

 

Be So Very Light, Be A Gentle Whisper

Gary W Graefen's Way

 

I get written to a lot. I sometimes find it hard. It's like people expect something to rub off if I chat with them. The reality is that as a person I am pretty ordinary in my ways. I have had my moments in life, but do not foresee any monuments LoL. My goal has always been pretty simple. Help others see the beauty in living, try to find some happiness in a day. Look for something more in life than an easy chair. Take a tiger by the tail if you will. Many are at home unable to venture out into the world, so I try to bring pieces of it back to them. Create a smile, open a heart & mind. Use what I know how to do to brighten another's day. But I try to never let go. I know when some miss me. ❤ -Gary

A Crisis Of Faith

 

A mechanical man was found in a cave. He was created to look like a man. And when activated he seemed to act like one. He could think, talk, relate. Yet he was not a man. Upon self inflection this mechanical man longed to be human. But realizing this was not possible he chose the next best thing. A Leap Of Faith that he was. God has never introduced himself, shook my hand and said hello. But there are things in my life I would call an awakening. Over time and with effort over 20 million people have seen a least a small part of it. I do not know that God, is white, black, green. I do not know if he is a fatherly spirit, or his name was Mohammad. I know only for a fact that millions upon millions over time have needed and sought a higher power to help ease their pain. His name perhaps is far less important than his purpose. To help create a connection, to channel the power of love. To inspire that which is good, kind and loving. To create a spirit of fellowship amongst us all. That we are all equal and all loved. And that mortality can be more than just a quick power ride of compulsive consumption. Joy matters, Love is still the way, Peace means freedom. Caring about everyone can mean a better world. And Faith of any kind is better than the arrogance of total self indulgence. Today I hope God, whatever his name smiles on you 🙂 ❤ -Gary

I Love The Earth, My Home

 

I Love The Earth: It Is My Home, I Adore It's Wonderful Creatures. I want to protect it, cherish it's beauty. Maintain what is and always has been. Yet at the same time I know the nature of man. Some will choose a path which might lead to destruction. It is born of "Self" with little regard to "Others". So I toil knowing that what I do is righteous, loving and giving. I can only change things within the sphere of my reach. I can only hope that others might see what I see. And change the way they do things, or have chosen to do. But as any man, I will die. And the world will take the path which eternity has written for it. I do my best, I hope others will see light in darkness. But in the end I cannot change what will be written. Only do my best in the hope that some will see a glimmer of Hope & Light. And that is good enough. I TRY. And only hope that in time past me others might pick up a banner and carry it forward. Nothing is ever pointless. Hope is something we all share. ❤ -Gary

Are We All Lost Stars Trying To Light Up The Dark?

 

Are We All Lost Stars Trying To Light Up The Dark?:

 It was 1973, attending Michigan University for my first year. I grew my hair out, studied hard. But partied Friday Nights. Believed in Peace & Love. Started to help fight for equal rights and a different kind of world. Tv was black & white, Music was giant boxes which weighed tons LoL 🙂 . Clothes were tied dye, bell bottoms were in. Concerts were massive. Jobs were good and paid well. Slowly over time women by the millions started to enter the work force. Blacks were slowly given more equality in larger cities. Love was focused on more in many places. Though things always change slowly & with deliberation. They did change some. Millions voiced their opposition to World Wars and the industrial military complex. Electronics took a giant turn with the development of the micro-circuit. Housing started to grow by leaps and bounds. The economy grew at the fastest pace ever in history. The United States grew to be the largest economy in the world. And recognized as a world leader, with morality and honesty at it's core. Ships went from tiny vessels to almost mammoth cities crossing the oceans around the world. Man landed on the moon. Jets started to traverse the skies at super sonic speeds. The world itself grew by leaps and bounds. Every year fewer went hungry and more had homes. And though this seems long ago. The reality is that for many the world is a better place. And though nothing can grow for ever. The dreams of that time are not dead, just different. Hope is eternal, Love still matters. Peace can still be the way. And the world can still be a better place. Never feel like a lost star. You can still make a difference in the world we live in. ❤ -Gary

Hey Mister !

 

Hey Mister? : I have a neighbor, she is just 19. Still a teenager really. She found herself as an adult early. She got pregnant with a little boy. Never went to college. And is working as a manager of sorts at a local Taco Bell. She is making a tiny wage really. Less money by two thirds than I made working out of college at part time jobs in the auto industry. But she is managing. Sometimes I try to help her out with a secret grass cut. She had a boyfriend, who I think was the father of her child. He also was a quite young man. And truthfully as a Dad to 18 kids over 35 years not very responsible. They split up, and she came over one day to "check on me". Which I thought was sweet. But what she really wanted was affirmation, that she was still pretty & desirable. I am old enough to be her great grandpa really. But I gave her verbally what she needed to hear. That she still was a beautiful young women and that things would improve with effort, and one man is never the end. I tried to get across the need to improve her work skills and find something better for herself in life. Teens being what they are I think it kinda missed the mark. They always "Know Better", LoL. While we were talking her very young son, maybe 4. Kept trying to talk. But we kinda ignored him and just kept talking. Finally in supreme aggravation he looked at me directly and said very loudly Hey Mister Can I Talk To You?. I looked at him and smiled. I said Yes You Can Sir 🙂 . He told me a few things about his life, and suddenly was content that "He Had Been Heard" and was acknowledged as a sentient human being. It made me realize that young or old all we really want in life is for someone to say, yes I see you. Yes I understand that you have feelings and emotions, and YES YOU MATTER. You have value and are as important in life as I am. It was a simple equation that sometimes most of us miss. It's a function of Love. That I am real and have a need to be heard. Though far removed from being 4 years old. I was handed a wise lesson, even from a child. ❤ -Gary

MeMe By Gary Graefen July 2021

Good Morning

If you are a gifted person it doesn't mean that you gained something. It means you have something to give back.

More than cleverness we need kindness and gentleness.

I Believe In Life After Love

I looked in the mirror today, slowly a tear came my way, I remembered what I used to be, and silence enveloped me, the tear is a regret for what once was, but the silence is knowing that even though different, I still am really me.